Well, we finally did it. After the better part of a year's worth of paperwork hassles and edge-of-seat waiting, we were finally approved to be married. So, we did it, last Friday November 5, in Gus´s parents town of Guadalajara, Castilla-La Mancha, España.
Let me tell you, for a wedding that wasn´t really a well planned event, we had a very good time. That just about made up for the stress of the preceding months, not to mention the stress of the last few days and nights.
We could hardly sleep the night before, but that was mostly due to a too-small bed, lots of snoring, and a minor bladder infection. TMI? Oh, please, by blog standards that hardly registers. So, we got up in the middle of the night, Gus put on a hat and we had a little party in the kitchen. Prescient, that hat - he was really keen on wearing one to the wedding but it got forgotten in the last moments.
Neither of us knew what we´d wear until the day before, and we really weren´t even totally sure of who´d be there. The best of two worlds were in evidence, once things got rolling. Gus´s mom and dad really rose to the occasion and did all the driving, planning and coordinating for the day itself, keeping us more or less calm and focused on getting to the, um, Ayuntamiento on time.
Then, for the lighter side of life, our friends Cucho and Isa surprised us by showing up with top hats and monocles. These are ¨monóculos¨, in Spanish, and if the stress is shifted to the second-to-last syllable, it becomes ¨monkey-asses¨. Nice!
Filling out the friends front were the inimitable Johnny, fresh off his girlfriend´s hippie farm, outfitted in a sharp, shiny suit with a Bart Simpson tie, which read ¨Yo! Cool, Man!¨, and other timeless English proverbs,
and Szymon, from Gus´s hotel job, with his girlfriend Monika. They got to play ¨straight men¨ for all this goofiness.
In the end it was a fun day. I wore a hand-crocheted black dress about four sizes too small, making me so Spanish that the legal papers we got list me as a Spanish citizen, already. Is that all it takes? Gus looked chic in a black suit, and damned if near everyone wasn´t also wearing black. The Town Hall (Ayuntamiento) is in an old part of town, and/but the cool thing is it looks near deserted, and has such a Spaghetti Western vibe, that we were really sorry not to have worn cowboy hats and boots.
All I had to remember was, ¨¡Sí!¨ And I did it, and it´s done.
So, then lunch, then home, and tomorrow we go on Honeymoon. Sorry, Jánimun. Jajaja.
Felicidades all around!
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Saturday, August 28, 2010
Postcard: Having a Huelva Time, Sevilla Soon
At long last, my Family Vacation blog post!
At the beginning of August, Gus and I decided to do just over a week's worth of holiday travel, and to both economize and add to my Spain experience, we chose to have a two-parter. We first headed south to Andalucía, to his mother's home province of Huelva, so we could visit her Tio Ignacio in his home in a beach town called Punta Umbria. Gus´ mom was already there, so we caught a ride with Gus´ father, who was driving down to spend the month of August. Following this we capped it off with a few days in Sevilla, on the way back to Madrid.
1. PUNTA UMBRIA: KISS MY PENINSULAR WETLANDS
What a town, and maybe not so easy to describe. Here's the layout - it's a peninsula framed by an ocean side, and a "ria" side. Not exactly a river, a "ria" is more like an inlet, or an outlet. It's also dotted with wetlands and is very full of marinas. See that back there? That's New Jersey. No, no, but it is an oil refinery. Seemed a little close for comfort when I first looked out Uncle Iggy's window - from which this pic was taken. In fact, the fire-shooting smokestack on the right of this image was the general location of a fatal fire the day after we arrived, sad to say.
But here it is, the Ria side. The ocean side was a bit more tony and new-money, day-tripper. The Ria side has all these gracious, waterside apartment buildings, with wide windows looking out on the waterfront promenade and the marinas. Here's Gus and Uncle Iggy, in front of his building. In fact, above their heads, count three lit up windows in from the left and that´s the start of his apartment. Nice spot!
Uncle Iggy is the very soul of sweetness, a widower who has kept his home in the exact manner his late wife had left it. She was a woman clearly possessed by the need to create joyful visual arrangements, and their home is a wonderful funhouse of mementos, tchotchkes and photos, all carefully composed into tableaux and shrines to Family. With no children of their own, it seems the home became a kind of family museum, and while it's more than too much, it was so enjoyable to see. No kidding, it's one of the warmest and most fun homes I've ever been in, and it reminded me of my own late mother's tendency to decorative excess. But I'd never before seen it handled with this kind of scale and confidence. Oh, let the pictures do the talking.
But wait, there's more!
I think you get the idea, I'll let Jesus and the Eternal Flames here have the last word.
Right-o. OK, we spent 5 or 6 days there, lazily waltzing to the Ria beach or, taking the longer walk to the ocean side. The ria side was dead calm but for the jetski rich kid wankers zooming by, and bathtub hot. The ocean side was more action-packed with waves but, the warmth of the water in both spots really was remarkable. I just about never get into water without whining about the coldness and this was ideal for me.
I didn't take any beach pix though, sand and cameras didn't seem a good fit, so much of the trip is not documented in terms of hours of beach time. But I got some good pix of the town itself, to share.
It's full of very old people and the very young, too, out on parade on Calle Ancha, the Broadway of Punta Umbria. But this one old woman half summed things up for me. Here she is, outside the gambling parlor, in her TV chair, check her out (blurry, yeah, but we were trying to be stealthy about it).
And the other half lives in painful shoes. Perhaps most painful to look at (see right). Ouch.
Close to the end of the trip in Huelva, we were treated to a drive in the country with Gus' dad Manolo, seen here sporting his best "Dustin Hoffman in Ishtar" costume.
We saw an ancient mine, a spectacular underground ice cave,
fields of sunflowers and olive groves (I came to think of these as the Oil Fields), and some lovely, sunny, bright white buildinged towns with some very dimly lit people. Having gotten well twisted into the maze of narrow, seemingly one way corridor-like streets of one town, and in danger of not being able to safely back out of any upcoming dead-ends, Manolo asked a local how to get back to the center of town. "You've just driven by it!" she replied. Hard to argue with her.
Gus, modeling for the Nuestra Señora del Mayor Dolor shrine in Aracena.
Finally extricated from the tinytown trap, we ended our journey in...Jabugo. Yes, the land of the acorn fed pigs, cured and sliced into glassy shards of pure porcine heaven. And, rather than subject us to the, it must be said, roadside tourist-trap looking restaurants, Gus and Manolo tried to find a small locals-only kind of place in Jabugo proper. That's not as easy as it sounds, and in the end we ate at the first place we'd seen, right at the entrance to town. It was no disappointment at all, though, the barman was gracious and the food was...
Dr. Gonzo: "As your attorney, I advise you to eat more jamón".
Let's move on, but first I'll sum up my report by saying that we only committed one mother-offending faux pas in that entire 6 day stretch, a minor miracle in itself and one we still feel is defensible but, we'll call it a draw. It was a lovely time.
2. SEVILLA: DISORIENTINGLY HOT
OK, now I know why a hotel room with a rack rate of 600€ goes for something like 60€ a night in August. It´s hot, I mean, 45C or 113F, whatever floats your mirage. Wow. I really loved it, we´re rather more intrepid than most and truth is, there were still some people around, but the difficulty in staying upright at midday is not to be understated. I took a lot of pics at night because... I don´t know, really, I don´t remember the daytimes so much. Wow.
¨... y al cruzar la segunda calle, a mano izquierda esta vez...¨
Yes, this needs some explaining. Gus is paying tribute to ¨Bollilón¨. OK ... Gus has some distant cousins from Sevilla, who are part of a band called ¨No Me Pises, Que Llevo Chanclas¨. Which means, ¨Don´t Step On Me, I´m Wearing Sandals¨. Really. They have a funny and popular song video, ¨Bolillón¨, which is filmed right here in this square in the old section of Sevilla, called Santa Cruz. The video is about zombies who are high on hash because a Moroccan guy dropped a lump in the priest´s incense censer, and the yuppie hero spends the video desperately trying to escape the smoke filled neighborhood via... oh, just watch it. Dig the ocarina solo.
Though all of Sevilla is lovely, my pictures didn´t really take it in very well, until our final morning. The Alcazar is a splendid, ornate Moorish monument that is probably best not described, but shown.
Meet the Audioguide Family
The Sevilla fan club
the view from the train heading home
As always, thanks for reading and please, if you´d like to comment, please do it here right on the blog! It makes me happy and encourages me to know someone´s interested.
Hasta luego!
At the beginning of August, Gus and I decided to do just over a week's worth of holiday travel, and to both economize and add to my Spain experience, we chose to have a two-parter. We first headed south to Andalucía, to his mother's home province of Huelva, so we could visit her Tio Ignacio in his home in a beach town called Punta Umbria. Gus´ mom was already there, so we caught a ride with Gus´ father, who was driving down to spend the month of August. Following this we capped it off with a few days in Sevilla, on the way back to Madrid.
1. PUNTA UMBRIA: KISS MY PENINSULAR WETLANDS
What a town, and maybe not so easy to describe. Here's the layout - it's a peninsula framed by an ocean side, and a "ria" side. Not exactly a river, a "ria" is more like an inlet, or an outlet. It's also dotted with wetlands and is very full of marinas. See that back there? That's New Jersey. No, no, but it is an oil refinery. Seemed a little close for comfort when I first looked out Uncle Iggy's window - from which this pic was taken. In fact, the fire-shooting smokestack on the right of this image was the general location of a fatal fire the day after we arrived, sad to say.
But here it is, the Ria side. The ocean side was a bit more tony and new-money, day-tripper. The Ria side has all these gracious, waterside apartment buildings, with wide windows looking out on the waterfront promenade and the marinas. Here's Gus and Uncle Iggy, in front of his building. In fact, above their heads, count three lit up windows in from the left and that´s the start of his apartment. Nice spot!
Uncle Iggy is the very soul of sweetness, a widower who has kept his home in the exact manner his late wife had left it. She was a woman clearly possessed by the need to create joyful visual arrangements, and their home is a wonderful funhouse of mementos, tchotchkes and photos, all carefully composed into tableaux and shrines to Family. With no children of their own, it seems the home became a kind of family museum, and while it's more than too much, it was so enjoyable to see. No kidding, it's one of the warmest and most fun homes I've ever been in, and it reminded me of my own late mother's tendency to decorative excess. But I'd never before seen it handled with this kind of scale and confidence. Oh, let the pictures do the talking.
But wait, there's more!
I think you get the idea, I'll let Jesus and the Eternal Flames here have the last word.
Right-o. OK, we spent 5 or 6 days there, lazily waltzing to the Ria beach or, taking the longer walk to the ocean side. The ria side was dead calm but for the jetski rich kid wankers zooming by, and bathtub hot. The ocean side was more action-packed with waves but, the warmth of the water in both spots really was remarkable. I just about never get into water without whining about the coldness and this was ideal for me.
I didn't take any beach pix though, sand and cameras didn't seem a good fit, so much of the trip is not documented in terms of hours of beach time. But I got some good pix of the town itself, to share.
It's full of very old people and the very young, too, out on parade on Calle Ancha, the Broadway of Punta Umbria. But this one old woman half summed things up for me. Here she is, outside the gambling parlor, in her TV chair, check her out (blurry, yeah, but we were trying to be stealthy about it).
And the other half lives in painful shoes. Perhaps most painful to look at (see right). Ouch.
Close to the end of the trip in Huelva, we were treated to a drive in the country with Gus' dad Manolo, seen here sporting his best "Dustin Hoffman in Ishtar" costume.
We saw an ancient mine, a spectacular underground ice cave,
fields of sunflowers and olive groves (I came to think of these as the Oil Fields), and some lovely, sunny, bright white buildinged towns with some very dimly lit people. Having gotten well twisted into the maze of narrow, seemingly one way corridor-like streets of one town, and in danger of not being able to safely back out of any upcoming dead-ends, Manolo asked a local how to get back to the center of town. "You've just driven by it!" she replied. Hard to argue with her.
Gus, modeling for the Nuestra Señora del Mayor Dolor shrine in Aracena.
Finally extricated from the tinytown trap, we ended our journey in...Jabugo. Yes, the land of the acorn fed pigs, cured and sliced into glassy shards of pure porcine heaven. And, rather than subject us to the, it must be said, roadside tourist-trap looking restaurants, Gus and Manolo tried to find a small locals-only kind of place in Jabugo proper. That's not as easy as it sounds, and in the end we ate at the first place we'd seen, right at the entrance to town. It was no disappointment at all, though, the barman was gracious and the food was...
Dr. Gonzo: "As your attorney, I advise you to eat more jamón".
Let's move on, but first I'll sum up my report by saying that we only committed one mother-offending faux pas in that entire 6 day stretch, a minor miracle in itself and one we still feel is defensible but, we'll call it a draw. It was a lovely time.
2. SEVILLA: DISORIENTINGLY HOT
OK, now I know why a hotel room with a rack rate of 600€ goes for something like 60€ a night in August. It´s hot, I mean, 45C or 113F, whatever floats your mirage. Wow. I really loved it, we´re rather more intrepid than most and truth is, there were still some people around, but the difficulty in staying upright at midday is not to be understated. I took a lot of pics at night because... I don´t know, really, I don´t remember the daytimes so much. Wow.
¨... y al cruzar la segunda calle, a mano izquierda esta vez...¨
Yes, this needs some explaining. Gus is paying tribute to ¨Bollilón¨. OK ... Gus has some distant cousins from Sevilla, who are part of a band called ¨No Me Pises, Que Llevo Chanclas¨. Which means, ¨Don´t Step On Me, I´m Wearing Sandals¨. Really. They have a funny and popular song video, ¨Bolillón¨, which is filmed right here in this square in the old section of Sevilla, called Santa Cruz. The video is about zombies who are high on hash because a Moroccan guy dropped a lump in the priest´s incense censer, and the yuppie hero spends the video desperately trying to escape the smoke filled neighborhood via... oh, just watch it. Dig the ocarina solo.
Though all of Sevilla is lovely, my pictures didn´t really take it in very well, until our final morning. The Alcazar is a splendid, ornate Moorish monument that is probably best not described, but shown.
Meet the Audioguide Family
The Sevilla fan club
the view from the train heading home
As always, thanks for reading and please, if you´d like to comment, please do it here right on the blog! It makes me happy and encourages me to know someone´s interested.
Hasta luego!
Monday, July 12, 2010
España!
What can I say...a drunken night of mindless hilarity.
Gus hates it for all sorts of valid political reasons. I like it because I got pictures of happy Chinese kids, and some other people in red afros.
And I got to see my female friends actually using fans to cool themselves, proving that it´s true! Spanish women really use fans!

E-Pa-Ña!!!!! It´s an historical first.
Gus hates it for all sorts of valid political reasons. I like it because I got pictures of happy Chinese kids, and some other people in red afros.
And I got to see my female friends actually using fans to cool themselves, proving that it´s true! Spanish women really use fans!
E-Pa-Ña!!!!! It´s an historical first.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Up two blocks, take a right, and a fast left, and Calle de Nenúfar becomes Calle de Naranjo.
While walking home from the metro this afternoon, I started thinking about how my transition here is going, how I'm adjusting, what's new. It's funny, I remember friends in New York who were from other countries marking their progress on occasion, noting that with some realization, activity, purchase or even mistake, they'd become American, or 'more' American. That made me think - anyone can be American, all they have to do is show up and try (yeah, glossing right over a lot of immigration-related technicalities here but, I'm talking attitude and culture for the moment). It's a very American thing, to become American - how fun is that?
But then, can anyone ever 'become' Spanish, or another nationality, just be showing up and trying? Is that an accepted part of culture in other places, to be the 'foreigner' who suddenly picks up the rhythm and just fits in? I'm working on it, and I'm going to ask my new friends about this. Can I ever 'be' Spanish?
Meanwhile, without speaking Spanish yet, I've got ample evidence of my progress towards my goal. Here are my mini-update top 5 examples of my nascent Spanishness.
5. I gossip and drink at least once a week. Oh, that reminds me...Jelen, call me.
4. More than once I´ve been asked for directions in Tetuán. I may not know much Spanish, but I know where I am, and it shows.
3. I can make fun of fussy old ladies in the supermarket just by making eye contact with someone around my age.
2. I make coffee that tastes professional, and feels illegal.
1. I introduce myself with, and only respond to, the name Anamari. It´s not a joke anymore. ¨Ann Marie¨ feels like a box of rocks in my mouth.
But then, can anyone ever 'become' Spanish, or another nationality, just be showing up and trying? Is that an accepted part of culture in other places, to be the 'foreigner' who suddenly picks up the rhythm and just fits in? I'm working on it, and I'm going to ask my new friends about this. Can I ever 'be' Spanish?
Meanwhile, without speaking Spanish yet, I've got ample evidence of my progress towards my goal. Here are my mini-update top 5 examples of my nascent Spanishness.
5. I gossip and drink at least once a week. Oh, that reminds me...Jelen, call me.
4. More than once I´ve been asked for directions in Tetuán. I may not know much Spanish, but I know where I am, and it shows.
3. I can make fun of fussy old ladies in the supermarket just by making eye contact with someone around my age.
2. I make coffee that tastes professional, and feels illegal.
1. I introduce myself with, and only respond to, the name Anamari. It´s not a joke anymore. ¨Ann Marie¨ feels like a box of rocks in my mouth.
Monday, June 7, 2010
CUENCA: The Medieval Manhattan
I'm going to hazard a guess that you've never heard of Cuenca (unless, of course, you're Spanish). Gus and I visited this weekend, and I'm now lovestruck and starry-eyed. I took 477 pictures, a few of which will tell the story here with me.
Half the town's had some brush with art school, and I think it's been that way since the 14th Century. The old town, the reason you're coming here, sits on a high and narrow slice between two rivers. The signature architectural wonders of the old town are the magnificient Casas Colgadas, or Hanging Houses. These were built into and out over the high rock faces overlooking the gorge, facing one river.
Like Manhattan, the penned-in Cuenca could not build out so much as build up, so there are these high-rise Hanging Houses, as well as quite tall dwellings winding throughout the old town. The bridge called Puente de San Pablo gives a spectacular approach over the river and up to the most famous of remaining Casas. Another way to see them is from the very top of the town, the highest point.
Also, from the narrow roads within the old town, you can come upon these Casas almost without knowing it, and tour the inside of one that happens to be the Museo de Arte Abstracto Español.
The juxtaposition of the building's site and design with the stark, earthily modern interior and massive collection of Spanish contemporary painting and sculpture (mainly from the 1950's and 1960's) - well, it was stunning.Watch as Gus does an interpretive dance to describe this contrast.
Also very cool is how the interior of this museum echoes the up and down, winding quality of the old town, within its stark galleries.
I have to say more about the setting for these Casas Colgadas, the old town itself.

It's seriously steep, making both Toledo and Granada mere training grounds as far as endurance tourism goes.

There are staircases up, down, all around.
Maps will show two parallel streets. Let's say you're on one, and the restaurant in which you'd like to eat is on the other.
This requires navigating an Escher-like dreamscape full of stairs that seem to be going up, then appear to be going down, then disappear out of sight around a corner, through an archway, in to an alley,
going down, or up? yeah...

...then it's nighttime...
...and you're faced with a glowing and magnificent view, or it's daytime ...
and the walls seem to boil pools of color onto their surfaces, and a window appears...and then you find your restaurant...and it is good.

That's me eating Morteruelo, a kind of pâté made of different kinds of meat, mainly hare, partridge, hen and pork. And it is good!
Hey, and my friends with lots of camping and hiking experience know this to be true - the harder it is to get somewhere, the more well respected and better preserved the target site ends up being. True also of Cuenca because, though city and tour buses climb the big hill to deposit tourists atop, it is absolutely not catering to those unwilling or able to work for its beauty.Also laudable is Cuenca's - hm, what to call it, I guess urban planning? site design? Well, whatever, it seems that it just got its tourism wings only in the last two decades or so, and whomever was on the committees to keep things gorgeous gets high praise. The unobtrusive and unpatronizing signage make me happy. The lack of self-promoting banners with tons of loud logos is a joyful relief. And the lack of meandering herds of unhappy-to-be-there tour groups is killer. Upshot, even the tourists kinda look good.
And the drunk gyspy guys playing guitar in front of the little convenience store are in tune, and worth a beer donation and a conversation or three.
That's Gus in the middle there, being told how healthy he looks.
When I leave a museum, everything ends up looking like art - you know, that eye adjustment which is fun for about 30 minutes. Cuenca's a bit manipulative because it does the same without itself being a museum. It's just presenting itself as art, everywhere, all the time.
Everything from windows, walls, trash cans, all fall together in a kind of harmony that shows there was a hand in it, one that cared. That's what I meant by the art school comment.

You can sense the "hand" in a lot of things, from wall repair to the benign neglect that allows age to manifest as beauty. 



Oh, and lest I forget, there's street art aplenty but without the subversive, desecrating instinct of what I saw in Toledo. Here in Cuenca it's a lot more like site-specific installations, for the most part respectfully placed and complementary. 

Oh, I could say a lot more, maybe I'll add to this. Maybe things about the hostel we stayed it (utterly recommendable, "Hostal de la Luz"), with a host who reminded me of Iggy Pop and Gus of Klaus Kinski. I ended up thinking of him as Iggy Kinski. And about visiting with Gus's good friend Yola, who's maybe living here now.
this trip brought to you by Nolotil.
Or how I was constantly battling the familiar knee pain...
or how Gus learned to combat allergies with my girly sunglasses ...
Gus showing pollen who's the tough guy:
Oh, there's always just so much to talk about. But this trip really is better told in pictures. See for yourself, because the real experience of Cuenca was around its every corner, and up every down staircase.
Photo at right, and all photos of me, by Gus
PS - did you think you'd get away without a mention of the famous language barrier? Think again, but since you've made it all the way to the end of this very long post, you get a special treat. "I said you're so photogenic, you thought I said what?"
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